We are constantly at war with ourselves.
It’s so easy to see our shortcomings. Our self-esteem deflates when we can’t lose the weight we planned, or can’t seem to balance our finances. We berate ourselves for our lack of discipline. Feeling depressed and troubled many people look to their doctor to help them drawn their sorrows, hoping that an antidepressant or a stress pill will make them feel happy.
Many others look to forget themselves through alcohol, food and drugs.
Others are angry with themselves and find some short joy in trying to put someone else down so they can elevate their stature. They find fault with their spouse, their friend and the society they live in.
Everyone wants happiness, unfortunately, few ever find it. Their inner conflict lead to depression, suicide or through surrounding themselves with material possessions.
But all these methods are self-destructive. They are extreme measures that many resort to to get a sense of achievement and balance.
The stress of daily life today often doesn’t provide the time to just relax and get a sense of who we really are and find the purpose and meaning of life. Many people simply accept that life is nothing but suffering, that somehow they deserve to suffer and that providence expects it from us. We think we must be poor to be holy. We believe we must suffer ridicule and indignation to qualify for eternal life.
Suffering is not the purpose of existence, nor is it the curse of some vengeful deity. It does provide some valuable lessons. Unfortunately, too many suffer far too much than is needed. According to the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, suffering can be alleviated. We need not suffer unduly. It is not our destiny.
But why do we suffer?
Primarily we bring suffering upon ourselves. We live a life that guarantees we suffer and keeps us from attaining the peace and happiness we all crave for. Unfortunately, we live by our baser instincts. Selfishness keeps us from doing good. We want more money, more fame, more possessions and we get them with no regard as to who might suffer.
Is it possible to find inner peace?
Yes, if we can focus our thoughts on what can alleviate suffering.
We must remember that suffering is not exclusive to us alone. Everyone has worries and everyone experiences suffering in their lives. We take our troubles as personal. We don’t see the big picture of our circumstances. We believe we have it tough, but that belief is only an illusion. And if you live in the prosperous nations of the world, your situation is hardly worse that a starving and impoverished child in the poorest of African nations. Your situation doesn’t compare to a starving family that tries to coax drought stricken soil to produce enough food to last them until the next harvest. It’s all a matter of perspective.
Because your situation is not unique, you need to learn to be more thankful. It should be obvious that you don’t need to worry what the future will bring when you have enough right now to see a future. Of course we always look at what we don’t have. That’s human nature. We constantly strive towards something that will make us happy. But even when we do have more of what we want, we’re still not satisfied. Today’s society is too focused on material wealth. Profits and money rules over common sense. Unfortunately, this self-centered focus means that the majority of people are living a lie. They’re living an illusion that can never bring peace of mind or happiness. By being thankful, the doors to peace and happiness can open and the purpose of life revealed.
What most of us don’t consider is that we are not independent from everyone else. True, you have your own personality and characteristics that make you different from everyone around you. But you need to depend on them as much as they need to depend on you. We are all dependent on one another as well as independent. We think that what happens a world away has no bearing on us, but this is not true. Like throwing a stone into a pond, the ripples move outward and you are affected, even if it appears minor.
Consider what it took for you to get the job you have today. There were many teachers that took their time and effort to teach you how to read, write and spell as you were growing up. Your parents spent money to insure your education. You would not have the job you hold today if your employer did not hire you. You would not be married unless your spouse consented to marrying you. The family environment requires that each member performs to their capacity to insure the peace and stability of the family unit. That dependence continues throughout life and on beyond death, for someone must sway the rights and bury your body.
It should be no surprise then to realize that because we are dependent on one another, we must be helpful. You require help and aid as much as the neighbor requires it of you. Greed, vanity and selfishness disrupts the natural functioning of life and creates disharmony and unhappiness. Being helpful is not a chore as it helps increase your self-worth. Peace and stability in families and nations are determined by how much every participant gives of themselves to maintain the greater good. It is this attitude that has made nations throughout history strong and prosperous. It’s only when the people became selfish that those same nations fell and became poor.
The present moment is all anyone has. No one can pin their hopes on a future that may never materialize as they planned. While it is important to set goals for a better future, there are many factors that can derail the best of plans. But too many people are busy trying to live tomorrow when it hasn’t yet arrived. They’re busy wishing or scheming, holding the belief that if they achieve what they want, they will be happy. The future is a mystery, so why focus so much attention to it? This moment, this second is the only reality anyone has. The past is history and the future is uncertain. It’s what you do in present time and how you use it that will determine a better future than if you spend today lounging on the sofa drinking and playing video games. Many people feel unhappy so they use drugs, drink and food to relieve their misery but doing so only perpetuates that misery to tomorrow and beyond. The only recourse to alleviating unhappiness is to get busy doing something productive today.
Inner conflict has many reasons. External factors do play a part, but for the majority of people, they can resolve to be happy. Happiness starts with how a person thinks. To ease the constant battle you experience within yourself, you need only to learn to be appreciative, take matters less seriously, be more helpful and learn to live today only. It’s only then that your problems will ease considerably and you will find more peace.
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